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Single parent dating in Ireland. Dating 100 years ago was surprisingly not unlike online dating today. People use to date writing letters before they meet the person they were interested in dating. People would have an introduction via friends or they would know someone who was single and the two people would write letters to get to know each other, even before they meet. I personally know people who were married over 50 years, who initially dated this way, through writing first before they meet. So using our online dating for single mothers and fathers is not too much different. Whether writing letters with paper or by e-mail online dating is surprisingly an old fashion way of dating.
One hundred years ago there were many single parents in Ireland. What? Of course there were. People unfortunately had different mortality rates and the probably you would be a single parent at some point in your life was very high. Usually people remarried with another single parent very quickly for economic and practical reasons.
But the reality was there were many single parents. So do not be fooled in thinking you as a single parent untraditional. 100 years ago in many cases it was the norm in Ireland.
In contrast single parents are no longer in the minority in American society. Single parent households make up more than 52% of families in the United States. In America, although very religious, there is no stigma for being a single parent as it is a norm. But almost 100% of the people in the USA that are single parents would love to be in a relationship. Society is complex society and life is complex now days. Most single parents have traditional moral views but for various complex reasons have found themselves as single parents. There is no way, that a our grandparents would have foreseen the complex changes that arose in our of modern society.
The main reason there are less single parents in Ireland, not only in terms of total numbers of single parents, but in terms of percentages is, that the laws and morals concerning marriage are very complex in Ireland, while in the USA people, it is more of a melting pot of ideas about relationships and marriage. This is in contrast to Ireland.
Being a single parent is a unique experience. If you have not had the experience of being a single parent, you have difficulty imagining what its really like to be a single parent. However, once you meet someone who is a single parent then there is a connection based on a commonality of experiences. But to meet another single parent is the real trick. This is why we run this web site. It to help you make this connection. So hopefully you can call someone 'chuisle mo chroÃ' (translated from Irish) 'Pulse of my heart' . "Mistakes are the portals of discovery". –James Joyce, Irish poet
Dating as a single parent is not about finding a person as an adjunct to your life, rather its about finding the person for your whole life. Your whole life, as a parent and for you.
Acceptance is perhaps the most important aspect of a relationship. Acceptance means seeing the humanity in the other person, and if it is true love, not changing or having to change their or your core personality. Dating as a single parent is about the person accepting you as a whole and you accepting them, if it is true love. The person who accepts you and will be there to support you as you support them, is the ideal. Dating as a single parent is about finding someone who accepts the whole you and your life, not just aspects of your life.
Doctor, lawyer, business professional, what is the most important job in the world? Being a mother of course. How can anyone argue with that. Being a mothers prepare not only individuals for life but the next generation.
Your are being a single mother in Ireland means being responsible. Not only your child's life but for your life. Kids are smart. They perceive everything. If your life as a single mother is not happy or fulfilled they will pick this up, even on a subconscious level. So part of the responsibility of being a single mother is being true to yourself. "to thine own self be true"- Plato. Finding happiness in your love live is a major part of that.
Childen's psychologies are fragile. Your dating relationships are not interdependent with your relationship with your children, but they are interrelated. This means being a single mother you should be concerned about your children's well being, however, this does not exclude having a dating life. This is what a lot of single mothers think. Single mothers sometimes say 'I will focus on the kids', but the problem with this is, kids will perceive it if you are not fulfilled. And they want you to be happy like you want them to be.
If you have a partner who is also a single parent and understands, this makes a world of difference. This is why for a single mother in Ireland , finding the right connection is so important.
We set this set up this online dating community because being a single father is different from simply being a single.
www.Singleparents.ie is focused on exactly what you want. You have too little free time to wait in the library or park and hope the man or women of your dreams will find you. And further that this man or women in the library or park will be open to dating you and accept you. This may happen and you may have the time to wait if you are 16 years old, but the reality is if you want to date and you have little free time, online dating is an excellent way to at least try. Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 20 million people visit at least one online dating service a month. The reason is simple. Free time does not exist in our society and you have even less free time for dating if you are a single parent .
The world is full of possibilities. We hope you will try our free online dating for single parents in Ireland. It is free at the basic level. Whether you are a single mother or a single father www.singleparents.ie is the online dating site for you.